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Just start living

They say you’re supposed to do start on a project if you actually want to get it done. Or else, you’ll think about it too much and nothing will ever happen. I’ve tried to employ this strategy in recent years, as I work on projects. But sometimes, you run into a situation where you don’t have the skills to get it as good as you want it, you don’t have the money to pay someone else to do it and as a result, the inertia you need to get it off the ground doesn’t materialize.

So what do you do? Try to figure out something you can do and hope that’ll be the foundation for doing what it is you purport to want to do.

But how many times do you keep doing that before you never get where you “thought” you wanted to be? Is it a matter of being tired of climbing the mountain and simply deciding to stay where you are, in the basecamp? Because even though you’re not going anywhere, at least you’re safe and you don’t have as much to worry about?

Nope. Playing it safe hasn’t really gotten me anywhere. Using the mountain analogy, staying in the base of the mountain where it might be warm is great until there is an avalanche that buries your cabin. Or it snows so much that the only access road you have out is buried and you’re running out of food and wood for fuel.

The point is, no matter how safe you try to play it, life is going to happen anyway. So you might as well be doing what you want. How you get there and how you go about accomplishing it, is up to your imagination. But over the past few days, I’ve come to a few critical realizations that I feel are worth sharing, as I imagine that other folks have arrived at similar conclusions.

1. Your life is yours. Sharing it with those people who value it.
Simply put, you can’t spend all of your time trying to impress people who won’t ever be impressed. You’re a great person and you do great things. So why waste your time trying to convince people who don’t know it, can’t see it or won’t say anything…about what you have to offer. You have better things to do.
2. Stop worrying.
It’s Saturday night, you’re going out with some friends and all you can think about is that meeting you’ve got on Thursday or that presentation you have in 10 days that’s contingent on this thing and that thing. If you’re sitting at home working on it, that’s one thing. But if you’re about to go out to unwind, decompress and enjoy life, then do that. Turn up the music and just chill out. The work will be there when you get back.
3. You’ve waited your whole life to grow up. So do it.
We wait our whole lives to get from under our parents thumb. Then we grow up and spend another twenty years trying to do things to please them, get their approval and to thrust people who are far less important than them into the role of approvers of what we do, how we do it and what we believe. Stop being ridiculous and start being real…with yourself. It’s your life. There is no such thing as a useless major and you’re only wasting your time living if you’re doing what you want. Be kind to others and start thriving.

This post started off in a different direction, but melds the core ideas that have been floating around my head for the past week or so. It just occurs to me as I talk to people and even contemplate my own life, that we let so much stuff clog our brains that we make it so hard to truly thrive the way we want to, which is a shame.

To summarize, you have the world at your fingertips and what you want is within your grasp. You owe it to yourself and those who’ve come before you, to reach for it.